3 Signs You Haven’t Forgiven Them for Cheating

April 24, 2018

While cheating wreaks havoc in any relationship, many couples choose to stay together, and to try to forgive and forget.

But, it’s difficult to know if you have actually forgiven your partner for their betrayal, especially if you are still in love and the relationship seems perfect otherwise.

Here are three signs to help you identify if you haven’t really forgiven them:

You Feel Insecure

Whenever you see your partner with members of the opposite sex, your mind starts telling you that your beau is probably asking them out on dates, or that they’re already seeing each other behind your back.

You want to know every detail of their conversations. Regardless of how innocent their chats might be, you always find a reason to make the people you feel threatened by the centre of every fight you have with your partner.

You Stop Being Intimate

If physical intimacy becomes awkward or you suddenly feel uncomfortable, then you are probably still holding onto the issue.

Take time to heal after finding out that your partner cheated on you and avoid pretending to enjoy being physically close while your mind says the opposite.

You Hate Their Friends

Because you are still hurt, you begin to see your partner’s friends as villains. You believe they are bad influences.

You also begin to question their loyalty: you wonder if they knew and if so, why didn’t they warn you? You blame your partner’s friends for their behaviour, which is wrong because your partner is the one at fault and not them.

Remember, that healing might take months or even years, depending on one’s emotions. It’s very important to allow yourself to go through the process without being in denial, and without pretending that you have forgiven your partner.