The Secret to a Long-Term Relationship

September 21, 2018

There are no two ways about it: relationships are hard. Successful, long-term relationships take a lot of work and sacrifice. Ultimately, the love and respect you have for (and show) your partner is what will keep you together in the long run.

Check out some of our secrets to maintaining a loving, honest and fun relationship.

Listen

Too often in long-term relationships, we forget to truly listen to our partners. It is easy to get caught up one’s own thoughts and feelings, and to ignore the feelings and needs of your partner.

Make sure you listen to your partner. Put your mobile away and focus your attention on what they are communicating to you, whether it be through words or gestures. Be aware of their thoughts, their feelings and how they perceive their role in your relationship.

Be Vulnerable

In any relationship, there will be times when you have to be strong – sometimes for yourself, and sometimes for your partner.

Don’t let the need to be strong overshadow your vulnerability. It is very important to allow yourself – and your partner – to be vulnerable in a relationship.

Showing your vulnerability will show your partner that you trust them not to use it against you.

Putting up walls will ultimately shut them out and, eventually, true and honest communication will deteriorate.

Learn to Love Yourself

As the saying goes, if you can’t love yourself, you won’t be able to fully love someone else.

While spending time working on and developing your relationship with your partner is important, spending time developing a relationship with yourself is equally important.

Be comfortable with who and what you are, and most importantly, be comfortable with spending time alone.

By spending time alone, you will be able to recharge and to reflect on yourself – and return to your relationship with your partner refreshed and rejuvenated.

Learn to Forgive

Everyone makes mistakes, especially in relationships. You and your partner both have flaws that will eventually rub each other the wrong way.

When conflict arises, try to communicate effectively, to empathise and to forgive afterwards.

Conflict is a natural part of relationships, the trick is to not hold grudges and to learn to forgive.