Should you break up or make up?

July 04, 2018

Many people often prefer to stay in a bad relationship because the fear of breaking up can seem scarier than the pain of a potentially damaging relationship.

Can you work things out? Or is it time to move on? How do you know?

When you are simply not happy

Every healthy relationship should give those in it some sense of happiness. If you are constantly wondering if you are still happy in your relationship, then maybe it’s time to think about taking the bold step to move on.

All couples argue, and so if a simple argument leaves you struggling to recover, and with lingering thoughts of ending your relationship, it’s a clear sign that something is wrong.

You no longer trust your partner

A healthy relationship is built on many things, and one of the most important of those is trust. If your partner has badly violated your trust and you can’t repair it or totally forgive them, it may be time to move on.

It’s unlikely you’ll be able to maintain a serious relationship without trust, so it’s possible that sooner or later you’ll break up.

You can’t figure out a way to work it out

One of the important questions to ask yourself while in the midst of your confusion of whether or not to break up is: “Can you two work it out?” And if so, do you actually want to?

Is there something about your relationship that’s worth salvaging? If so, then aim to work towards healthy conflict resolution with your partner. But, if you’re in doubt that the relationship can be fixed, and perhaps don’t really want to on some level, then it may be time to call it quits.

You lie to yourself

One of the signs that your relationship is in trouble, is when you’re struggling to admit to yourself facts about your relationship that you know to be true.

For example, when you know that it’s not working out, regardless of how hard you try. When you know that you are no longer compatible and all you do is argue all the time. That’s when it’s definitely time to consider making the difficult decision to quit!